Planning to read this book one hour every day.
I found myself belonging to a combination of Dismissive parents and Laissez-Faire parents, and K a Disapproving parents. I tends to ignore their negative feelings sometimes, not to help them navigate through their feelings even though I accepted and sympathized with them.
The five steps of emotional coaching of parents are;
1. To become aware of the child's emotion;
2. To recognize the emotion as an opportunity for intimacy and teaching;
3. To listen empathetically, validating the child's feeling;
4. To help the child find words to label the emotion he is having; and
5. To set limits while exploring strategies to solve the problem at hand.
The key for me is to recognize the emotion as an opportunity for intimacy and coaching. This is a starting point to change the dynamics between me and the kids.
Father's role and his interaction with the child can be much more extreme, whether good or bad.
EC doesn't mean the end of discipline.
Practice, practice and practice!!
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