Friday, June 28, 2013

It is well with my soul

I have alway been touched whenever I heard or sing this song.  The story behind it is even more strikingly moving.

When peace, like a river, attendeth my way,
When sorrows like sea billows roll;
Whatever my lot, Thou has taught me to say,
It is well, it is well, with my soul.

Refrain:
It is well, with my soul,
It is well, it is well, with my soul.
 
Though Satan should buffet, though trials should come,
Let this blest assurance control,
That Christ has regarded my helpless estate,
And hath shed His own blood for my soul.

My sin, oh, the bliss of this glorious thought!
My sin, not in part but the whole,
Is nailed to the cross, and I bear it no more,
Praise the Lord, praise the Lord, O my soul!

For me, be it Christ, be it Christ hence to live:
If Jordan above me shall roll,
No pang shall be mine, for in death as in life
Thou wilt whisper Thy peace to my soul.

But, Lord, ’tis for Thee, for Thy coming we wait,
The sky, not the grave, is our goal;
Oh, trump of the angel! Oh, voice of the Lord!
Blessed hope, blessed rest of my soul!

And Lord, haste the day when my faith shall be sight,
The clouds be rolled back as a scroll;
The trump shall resound, and the Lord shall descend,
Even so, it is well with my soul.

Monday, February 04, 2013

Tooth Fairy and Daddy

On our way to church this morning, as usual we turned on to NPR's This American Life.  The program was about child psychology, sounded interesting, so we listened on.  Without warning, the story began to talk about how a little girl found out the tooth fairy was her best friend's Dad.  I don't want the kids to listen anymore but it's too late.

T commented first, " I know, Daddy is the tooth fairy."
"Are you sure?" I replied innocently.
"Daddy and Mommy are Santa too." She continued without a pause.
The rest of the kids started rumbling on the backseats.
E protested, "if Daddy turns into the tooth fairy, then we don't have Daddy anymore."

We all burst into laugh.

Tuesday, January 29, 2013

变成他们

一直很喜欢读纽约客的“个人历史”栏目。看某人人生的片段或回顾,常常让我思索自己的某些经历,在记忆的迷宫中重新体味某些若隐若现的熟悉滋味。昨晚读到James Wood的这篇“Becoming Them”,从童年星期日下午他父亲所听的音乐开始,到现在目睹他们年老力衰之际的无能为力,几度想到自己的父母,泪水也涌上来。

JamesWood 写道,“I have spent my thirties and forties journeying through a long realization that I am decisively my parents's child, that I am destined to share many of their gestures and habits, and that this slow process of becoming them, or becoming more like them, is, like the Roman ave atque vale, both an address and a farewell."

下午T提早放学,我离开电脑去卧房换掉穿了大半天的睡衣,在衣橱里流连了片刻,想找到前几天突然记起来的一件深绿色毛衣,手指滑过一个个衣架一遍,两遍,最终放弃了,拿了一件灰色的毛衣套上。突然想起父母的卧房和他们的衣橱,那些叠在一起的箱柜和包袱,老式的锁眼,斑驳的油漆还有陈旧而整洁的气味。我的衣橱里叠累的衣架挂满了按季节,质料和款式分类的衣服:上班外套,短袖衬衣,长裙,短裙。。。还有薰衣草和香柏木的味道。从表面看我和他们的生活方式是多么的不同,然而在不经意的时候看到镜子中的自己,那眼神竟然像极了母亲的,肃穆而带着一点内敛。

不记得变成他们的过程是从什么时候开始的。一天,在台灯下给女儿缝补女童军的徽章和挂带时,她在旁边摆弄针线盒子里的那些纽扣和彩线,就像我小时一样。这时候有一种强烈的倾诉愿望,想讲给她听母亲在做针线活时讲过的那些家史和故事,和她分享我儿时的想象中童年的母亲穿着灰色的小棉袍,在寒冬的早晨沿着长江边的石板路上跑下来,去打美味的头汤面。在女儿不知道如何写她的第一篇作文的时候,我所做的竟然是重复母亲做过的,让她告诉我她想说的话,然后把这些话记下来。我的父母,尽管他们有他们的局限和弱点,他们确实是我人生的第一位,也是最重要的老师,我们有意或无意地效仿他们,在我们辛苦开拓的人生路径上,他们也留下了他们的印记。

上周和爸爸通电话,他说他突然意识到他所住的这层公寓楼里只剩下他一个住户了。 另外的两个邻居一个在老伴去世后终于搬到女儿家去了,另一家也搬走了。“晚上除了我家里,这里都是黑的。”他黯然地说,第一次我从电话那头听到了恐惧和孤单。

有一天他也会走了,灯关了。



Monday, March 26, 2012

玩物志

终于我也爬上了iPad的马车。在苹果网上预订了一部新iPad,3月17号就准时送到了家里。过后几天每天都在上面翻箱倒柜,找免费的中英文儿童读物。初步的成果是上百本的童书还有二,三十个游戏。对小孩子来说,声画互动的电子书比传统的图书跟具吸引力。我意识到用得适当,iPad可以成为极好的教学工具。

目前发现的好的软件:
1. 宝宝学中文,听读写集于一体,简单的界面,手写的功能对写字特别有帮助。小朋友们争相写字。受到表扬一脸的得意。
2. ABC对认读字母很有帮助,R和E都可以认20以上的。他们需要一个帮助写字母的软件。
3. 好些童书有中英文的选择,对锻炼听力很有帮助。其中的录音功能还可以帮助小孩子复述故事,锻炼他们的表达能力。

Monday, March 05, 2012

Unaccustomed Earth

昨晚读完了Jhumpa Lahiri的Unaccustomed Earth.

这个故事从女儿和父亲的交叉叙事里展示人生中的重要经历:个人选择,独立,家庭与死亡对父女两代不同的影响。读的时候,我想起自己的父母,想起自己每天在做的父母的事,想起未来我的孩子们会怎样来看他们的成长经历。。。读完了心里很沉重,很惆怅。

读到Ruma的父亲意识到他为了自己的前途来美国,实际上是forsaken了自己的父母,我的眼泪就禁不住流下来了。想起出国前的某个周末的午后,陪着父母在家里客厅里打麻将,阳光照着我母亲花白的头发,她的老花镜挂在鼻尖上,快滑下来的样子,她打出一张牌,然后得意地从眼镜上面看着我们。几年后她去世时我才意识到那个时刻其实多么完美。

Ruma的父亲觉得“the entire enterprise of havign a family, of putting children on this earth, as gratifying as it sometimes felt, was flawed from the start." 读起来有点佛教的悲观,但是何尝不是真实的的感受。我母亲去世后我回中国呆了三个月,三个月中一直试图明白死亡的意义,记得当时半夜不能入眠,想到人生的本质注定是残缺的,儿女注定要送别父母,我们最终是独自在这个世上的。然而感谢主,在后来的岁月里带我走出了死阴与绝望的幽谷,成为我无依时所靠。

故事的结尾不是我所喜欢的。如果我是Ruma,我会为老父亲开心。人生完美的时刻何其稀少,我们真的是该珍惜这些瞬间。

小说的题目出自霍桑的The Custom-House:Human Nature will not flourish, any more than a potato, if it be planted and replanted, for too long a series of generations, in the same worn-out soil. My children have had other birthplaces, and, so far as their fortunes may be within my control, shall strike their roots into unaccustomed earth.

Tuesday, January 10, 2012

追梦人

我对20世纪美国文学的体验停止在读了一半的“兔子”系列上,菲茨杰拉德和他的作品似乎从来没有引起我的兴趣。 新年后开始读伟大的盖茨比,竟然出乎意外地被打动了。

盖茨比是一个追梦人,他追逐的梦想是一个更好的自己, 一个家乡以外的世界。黛西是他的梦想的象征,他爱上了自己的梦想,为实现这个梦想附上了终极的代价。盖茨比的逐梦最终被尼克所解读,他们对西部以外世界的爱恨交织让我想起汤玛斯-沃尔夫的“你不能回家”。

"And as I sat there, brooding on the old, unknown world, I thought of Gatsby's wonder when he first picked out Daisy's light at the end of his dock. He had come such a long way to this blue lawn, and his dream must have seemed so close he could hardly fail to grasp it. But what he did not know was that it was already behind him, somewhere in the vast obscurity beyond the city, where the dark fields of the republic rolled on under the night." - F. Scott Fitzgerald, The Great Gatsby, Ch. 9

"Gatsby believed in the green light, the orgiastic future that year by year recedes before us. It eluded us then, but that's no matter--tomorrow we will run faster, stretch out our arms farther.... And one fine morning-- So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past." - F. Scott Fitzgerald, The Great Gatsby, Ch. 9

几个主题 1. 大战之后的纸醉金迷 (盖茨比的派对) 2. 芝加哥/纽约与西部 (文化中心和本土的美国) 3. 女性的自由与女性的束缚 (婚外情,职业,婚姻选择)

Thursday, December 15, 2011

23 1/2 小时

今天看到这个油管,我的目标是从明天起开始为我自己做这件事。争取能不再需要吃药。

Tuesday, December 06, 2011

初雪

今天起来,门外铺了一层薄薄的白雪,这是今年冬天的第一场雪。

昨晚和家里通了电话,爸爸的精神有所好转,我的心情也随之好了许多。最让人鼓舞的是他说在他心里,他知道他能度过这个难关。回想他上次来我这里,还能在打太极的时候高抬腿半分钟之久,那时他已经79岁了。愿神亲自带领保守爸爸!

Saturday, December 03, 2011

In God We Trust

Got a devastating news about my father this morning.  All morning I don't know what to think, what to hope.  On the way back from Ms T's piano class, a car cut in in front of me.  It has a bumper sticker  -“In God We Trust".  It's a reminder that I need.  I repeated it again and again to myself all day long until I have peace in my mind. 

I will entrust my father to God.

Friday, December 02, 2011

记忆与时间

最近在读Moonwalking with Einstein, 读到一些有意思的片断。
Memory and Time (P75 - P77)
"The psychological time, the tempo at which we experience lift's passage.  Time as a mental construct..By remembering more, by providing my life with more chronological landmarks, by making myself more aware of time's passage."

"The more we pack our lives with memories, the slower time seems to fly."

"Our lives are structured by our memories of events... We remember events by positioning them in time relative to other events. Just as we accumulate memories of facts by integrating them into a network, we accumulate life experiences by integrating them into a web of other chronological memories.  The denser the web, the denser the experience of time."

"Monotony collapse time; novelty unfolds it... Creating new memories stretches out psychological time, and lengthen our perception of our lives."

William James wrote in his Principles of Psychology in 1890: "In youth we may have an absolutely new experience, subjective or objective, every hour of the day. Apprehension is vivid, retentiveness strong, and our recollections of that time, like those of a time spent in rapid and interesting travel, are of something intricate, multitudinous and long-drawn-out. But as each passing year converts some of this experience into automatic routine which we hardly note at all, the days and the weeks smooth themselves out in recollection to contentless units, and the years grow hollow and collapse."

I remember Sylvia Plath wrote in Bell Jar as a young college girl she envisioned her life as endless lightposts that stretch beyond the end of a road, between which nothing has happened.  I had the same feeling after graduated from college, the newly settled life then was uncharacteristic to say the least. In a sense, the decision of coming to US was  a desperate effort to construct my life in a more meaningful way.

Wednesday, November 30, 2011

Siblings Without Rivalry

Leafed through the book last night.  Here are some pointers that can be put into practice.

  • Instead of dismissing negative feelings about a sibling, acknowledge the feelings;
  • Give Children in fantasy what they don't have in reality, express what the child might wish;
  • Help children channel their hostile feelings into symbolic or creative outlets;
  • Use words not behavior to express feelings;
  • Make grievances list, allow bad feelings leads to good feelings;
  • Avoid unfavorable/favorable comparisons among children;
  • Be specific on praises;
  • Instead of worrying about giving equal amount, focus on each child's individual needs;
  • Instead of claiming equal love, show children how they're loved uniquely;
  • Give time in terms of need;
  • Children don't need to be treated equally, they need to be treated uniquely
  • Let no child locked into a role either by others (parents/siblings), or him/herself.
  • Children with problems don't need to be viewed as problem children
    • Acceptance of their frustration
    • Appreciation for what they have accomplished however imperfect
    • Help in focusing solution
  • Leave the final decison up to the children while resolving a conflict.

Tuesday, November 29, 2011

To live with HBP

Went to see my doctor today for HBP.  She prescribed me a low dosage of betablock.  It looks like the only way to get away from medication is lifestyle change and reducing stress.
 
 
Lifestyle and home remedies for prehypertension
 By Mayo Clinic staff

As your blood pressure increases, so does your risk of cardiovascular disease. That's why it's so important to control prehypertension. The key is a commitment to healthy lifestyle changes.
  • Eat healthy foods. Try the Dietary Approaches to Stop Hypertension (DASH) diet. Choose fruits, vegetables, whole grains and low-fat dairy foods. Eat less saturated fat and total fat.
  • Maintain a healthy weight. If you're overweight, losing even 5 pounds can lower your blood pressure.
  • Use less salt. A lower sodium level — 1,500 milligrams (mg) a day — is appropriate for people 51 years of age or older, and individuals of any age who are African-American or who have hypertension, diabetes or chronic kidney disease. Otherwise healthy people can aim for 2,300 mg a day or less. While you can reduce the amount of salt you eat by putting down the saltshaker, you should also pay attention to the amount of salt that's in the processed foods you eat, such as canned soups or frozen dinners.Increase physical activity.
  •  Regular physical activity can help lower your blood pressure and keep your weight under control. Strive for at least 30 minutes of physical activity a day.
 Things I can do to reduce stress
  1. Yoga and exercise
  2. Go to bed at 11:00pm
  3. Delegating tasks
  4. Pray

Monday, November 28, 2011

How Elite Firms Hire: The Inside Story

How Elite Firms Hire: The Inside Story
Bryan Caplan

I highly recommend Lauren Rivera's "Ivies, Extracurriculars, and Exclusion" (Research in Social Stratification and Mobility 2011). Not only is the piece careful, edifying, and interesting; it's even emotionally affecting. Learning more about elite hiring actually replaced my apathy toward elite firms with sour grapes: "I never wanted to work for you anyway!"

Rivera's sample:

I examined hiring processes in three types of elite professional service firms: investment banks, law firms, and management consulting firms. These types of firms share important similarities, allowing for a robust comparison.

Her approach:

From 2006 to 2008, I conducted 120 interviews with professionals directly involved in undergraduate and graduate hiring decisions in top-tier firms in each of the three industries under study (i.e., 40 per industry). Participants included hiring partners, managing directors, and mid-level employees who conduct interviews and screen resumes as well as human resource managers.
[...]

To supplement interviews with behavioral data, I conducted fieldwork within the recruiting department of one elite professional service firm over a period of nine months. My role was that of a participant observer. Given my prior professional experience at a peer firm and in event planning, I was brought on as an unpaid "recruiting intern" to help plan and execute recruitment events... I shadowed recruiters through the recruitment process for full-time and summer associate candidates from a single, elite professional school, debriefed interviewers on job candidates immediately following interviews, and sat in on group deliberations where candidates were discussed and ultimately selected.

Big results:
1. Most applications practically go straight in the trash.

Because professionals balanced recruitment responsibilities with full-time client work, they often screened resumes while commuting to and from the office and client sites; in trains, planes, and taxis; frequently late at night and over take out... [E]valuators tended to do so very rapidly, typically bypassing cover letters (only about fifteen percent reported even looking at them) and transcripts and reported spending between 10 s to 4 min per resume.

2. Evaluators have a lot of slack.

[M]ost firms did not have a standard resume scoring rubric that they used to make interview decisions, evaluators reported "going down the page" from top to bottom, focusing on the pieces of resume data they personally believed were the most important "signals" of candidate quality. (emphasis mine)

In fact, evaluators explicitly select candidates similar to themselves in school rank, grades, etc. For example:

[R]oughly one-third of evaluators did not use educational prestige as a signal. One of the

primary differences between these two groups was their own educational history, with those who had attended "top" schools being more likely to use educational prestige as a screen than those who had attended other types of selective institutions.

3. Super-elite credentials matter much more than your academic record:

[E]valuators drew strong distinctions between top four universities, schools that I term the super-elite, and other types of selective colleges and universities. So-called "public Ivies" such as University of Michigan and Berkeley were not considered elite or even prestigious...

4. Super-elite schools matter because they're strong signals, not because they're better at building human capital:

Evaluators relied so intensely on "school" as a criterion of evaluation not because they believed that the content of elite curricula better prepared students for life in their firms - in fact, evaluators tended to believe that elite and, in particular, super-elite instruction was "too abstract," "overly theoretical," or even "useless" compared to the more "practical" and "relevant" training offered at "lesser" institutions...

[I]t was not the content of an elite education that employers valued but rather the perceived rigor of these institutions' admissions processes. According to this logic, the more prestigious a school, the higher its "bar" for admission, and thus the "smarter" its student body.
[...]

In addition to being an indicator of potential intellectual deficits, the decision to go to a lesser known school (because it was typically perceived by evaluators as a "choice") was often perceived to be evidence of moral failings, such as faulty judgment or a lack of foresight on the part of a student.

5. At least in this elite sample, I'm totally wrong to think that extracurriculars don't matter:

[E]valuators believed that the most attractive and enjoyable coworkers and candidates would be those who had strong extracurricular "passions." They also believed that involvement in activities outside of the classroom was evidence of superior social skill; they assumed a lack of involvement was a signal of social deficiencies... By contrast, those without significant extracurricular experiences or those who participated in activities that were primarily academically or pre-professionally oriented were perceived to be "boring," "tools," "bookworms," or "nerds" who might turn out to be "corporate drones" if hired.But they have to be the right kind of extracurriculars. You have to signal that you're not signaling! Across the board, they privileged activities that were motivated by "personal" rather than "professional" interest, even when activities were directly related to work within their industry (e.g., investing, consulting, legal clinic clubs) because the latter were believed to serve the instrumental purpose of "looking good" to recruiters and were suspected of being "resume filler" or "padding" rather than evidence of genuine "passion," "commitment," and "well-roundedness."

Don't imagine, though, that you should merely follow your bliss:

[T]hey differentiated being a varsity college athlete, preferably one that was also a national or Olympic champion, versus playing intramurals; having traveled the globe with a world-renowned orchestra as opposed to playing with a school chamber group; and having reached the summit of Everest or Kilimanjaro versus recreational hiking. The former activities were evidence of "true accomplishment" and dedication, whereas the latter were described as things that "anyone could do."

6. Grades do matter somewhat, but mostly as a cut-off. They're a signal of work ethic more than IQ:

[M]ost evaluators did not believe that grades were an indicator of intelligence. Rather, they provided a straightforward and "fair" way to rank candidates, particularly those within a given school... [G]rades were used to measure a candidate's moral qualities. An attorney (Asian-American, male), believed that grades were an indication of a candidate's coping skills, "It tells me how they can handle stress; if they'd had their feet to the flames before. If they've gotten good grades at a very competitive school, they're probably pretty sharp and can take care of themselves."

If labor economists want to understand how real-world labor markets actually work, these are the kinds of pieces they'll be reading - and eventually writing.

Thanksgiving with HBP

Stayed at home for past 10 days.  It turned out I didn't get the rest I was hoping for.  K was still working on the house the first 5 days, which made me increasingly irritable for all the mess he created.  Then came the incident that R cut his own hair!!  It was the tipping point for my BP.  The rest of days were filled up with preparing food for parties and parties.  By the end of the week, I was totally exhausted and miserable. Back to office on Cyber Monday, the first thing I did was to call my doctor to make appointment for my BP.

Monday, November 21, 2011

说话课之后续

R的说话课从去年11月开始,整整一年。今天去和说话课老师开会,老师说R的说话水平已达到同龄孩子的正常水平,不需要再上说话课了。从现在开始他还有一年半的时间继续提高,到学前班的时候应该没有问题。我注意到他开始说的比较多是从今年春天开始,有时候一个人也自言自语的。说话课到底起了多大作用还很难说,我觉得更有可能是他的语言神经开始搭线了。和T比较起来,他的语言还是晚了很多,包括对字母和数字的认识。老师建议用context learning,从logo入手。看来得开始每天给他做一个语言练习。

下面是一些初步的设想
1. 找字母、数字游戏,从一堆字母,数字中找到要找的字母、数字
2. 在街上找字母
3. 看购物指南找字母
4. 自己讲故事

Sunday, November 20, 2011

Who are those winners?

W's team got into SSC final last night. His mom was exhilarated. I can certainly relate to her. SSC final is a big deal for any high school students who have set their eyes on Ivy. Out of curiosity, I looked up the past winners of SSC to see what caliber they possess.

First of all, they’re all-around students. Most of them are NMS, National AP Scholars. Secondly, they’re a group of young kids with extraordinary accomplishments. Most of them participated in math and science competitions and won at local, state and national level. Their extracurricular activities ranging from Model UN, Boy Scouts, science bowl, math club, speech and debate club, robotics team to National Forensics League, etc. Many hold leadership positions at various clubs and student bodies. Some of them have very impressive music credentials. They all volunteer at different levels; some had won Presidential Service Gold Award. They also participate in sports. Some are published Authors in peer-review magazines and student magazines. One guy even shadowed a neurologist. Amazingly among 20 2010 finalists, 15 are Asians.

From the profiles of these winners, one can tell the heavy parent involvement and investments. It’s not surprise they have arrived at SSC final.

Some footnotes:
Competitions: Mathematical, Physics, and Computing Olympiads, BioGENEius Competition Princeton University Mathematics Competition and Pennsylvania Math League, Intel ISEF in Cellular/Molecular Biology, MathCounts, Aardvark Science Expo, Association of Computing Machinery (ACM)
Volunteer: Presidential Service Gold Award
Writing: Scholastic Writing Gold Key, National Spanish and Latin Exams, National Council of Teachers of English Superior Writing contest, Aerie International
Music: Eastman International Piano Competition
Summer program: Lego Mindstorms at a US Naval Academy summer

Saturday, November 19, 2011

Kept Women, 修为与正果

不久前看Coco Before Chanel. 原来这个缔造了庞大时装帝国的女人竟是靠做Kept Woman上位的。在上个世纪初的法国,孤儿院出来的女孩子,虽然有一技之长,要进入上层社会还是只有做小三一条路。Coco在小三的空间里发奋图强,磨砺己长,广植人脉,为将来做铺垫。她的可贵之处在于她从来没浪费时间去追逐婚姻的承诺。一旦她获取了经济的独立,她就不再是任何人的Kept Woman。Coco无疑给小三们示范了一条成功之路。 无独有偶,最近还看了Veronica Franco的传记片和Sabina Spielrein的纪录片,一个是16世纪的威尼斯名妓,另一个是和Coco差不多同时代的俄国犹太人,心理分析师。她们都才华非凡,都一度在婚姻的围墙外徘徊。Veronica最后选择做了职业妓女,靠身体来赚晚餐兼拯救国家;Sabina与荣格纠结无果,最后只能回归传统的婚姻。她们在小三的空间里失去的比得到的更多,因为她们爱男人甚于爱自己。我们之所以知道她们还是因为她们身后的那些男人们。但是对Coco来说,她身后的男人们都烟消云散了,她仍然耸立。

Thursday, November 17, 2011

日本人的性格一瞥

今天在等T游泳的时候看到Moonwalking With Einstein书中关于小鸡性别检验师的一段,特别有趣。在上世纪20年代,这是一个高难度的技术活,需要2年的专业学习,淘汰率极高,只有日本能培养出这样的专才。验一只鸡赚一分钱,好的检验师一个小时可以验1700只,通常一天有500元的收入。这些日本检验师在世界各地到处出差,就跟今天的商业顾问一样。日本人性格当中有一种顽强认真的劲头,这在战后日本的制造业的崛起当中也体现出来。 顺便提一句,今天还看到明末曾有大批的东渡行为,把王明阳的学说带到了日本,以至于明治时期盛行一时。

Wednesday, November 16, 2011

《索尔维格之歌》

小时候听格里格的培尔金特,最喜欢的就是《索尔维格之歌》这一段。但是从来没有试图去明白歌词和故事的背景。大约知道培尔金特是个浪子。白桦有人贴了几个《索尔维格之歌》的版本,重新听来仍然感动。于是去了维基,把培尔金特的故事看了一遍。在最后一幕,培尔金特垂垂老矣,回到故乡,面对自己的过往--未竟之业,未唱之歌,未擦之泪,未问之问题,他无法回答神的审判。这时他只有找到他年轻时的恋人索尔维格,询问他自己的过犯。但是索尔维格回答说,“你没有过犯,我最亲爱的孩子。”培尔大惑,他坚信自己确实沉沦了,于是他问她,“自我们最后相会之后,培尔金特流浪到何方?那个真实而完全的我,前额有神的印记的我,那本该是我的我在哪里?” 她回答说,“在我的信,望,爱里。”




Perchance both winter and spring will pass,
and next summer, and the entire year: —
but at last you will come, that I know for sure;
and I'll still be waiting, for I once promised I would.
God give you strength, wherever in the world you go!
God give you joy, when you stand before his judgement seat!
Here I'll wait until you come again;
and if you are waiting up above, there we'll meet, my love!



Tuesday, November 15, 2011

Reactions to a tragedy

Opened my email inbox this morning, there were many emails from parents of T's class about the tragic accident yesterday.  Room parents suggested to have kids writing cards and sending little gifts to Kyla and her little sister; some suggested to have a food basket sent to the hospital where they stay.  By the end of the day, LKE sent out email to the community notifying a fund was set up for the family. T and I went to the store after he swimming class bought some gifts too. 

I was touched again by how people here express their grieves and sympathy when dealing with difficulty situations. It reminds me the first sympathy card I got when I came back to US after mourning for my mother's pass.  The gesture of showing sympathy not only made me feel a connection with others, which I desperately needed at the moment,  it actually helped me move on.